Had a real scare the other night.

[OneLiveRound]

If she had everything under control, can she tell you why she woke you up? In the same situation, my dh would be upset with me if I'd woken him up unnecessarily -- and he is a lot nicer than I am, to say the least!


If you can, go back to sleep. I recommend that you do not talk about it tonight, and when the subject comes up, keep asking her,

• What did you think was happening?
• What did you want me to do?
• Why?

Concentrate on getting her to think her actions through. your actions were well-planned, and covered just about all bases. Hers -- not so much.

I'll get into it with her in the AM , right now just isn't the time.

[Narshalla]

I'll get into it with her in the AM , right now just isn't the time.

Smart man!

[alkwky]

I agree with everyone else... most of us can only hope we'd act in such a fashion, you have proof that you'd be johnny on the spot!

[ToeCutter]

Okay... I wasn't there, but from what I'm hearing, it sounds like your wife woke you in a panic, and then once she knows everything is okay, acts like you over reacted? It sounds like she may be the one with the problem. If she wasn't scared in the first place, why didn't she check and see it was fireworks?

When you're awoken to a potential danger situation, it does catch you sideways, and I don't think there's a whole lot you can do to counteract that, but it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. In that sort of situation, I wouldn't feel bad if you were a bit short with your family. You have to deal with the potential danger as quickly as possible, and that may involve barking a few commands.

Really, don't worry about it. Of course, you may need to smooth things over with the OH.

[Twigg]

<snip> Now I've been shot at before in a combat zone <snip>

Might be PTSD.

[4suchatimeasthis]

Sounds like mainly you were reacting to her, and the fear you sensed in her. If you would have woken up on your own from the noise, and she had calmly immediately said "just fireworks babe, go back to bed" you possibly would have been fine. Sure, that instant jolt of adrenaline, but very likely not the follow through reactions. But the panic you picked up on from her, and then the explosion rightly kicked you into high gear, and the rest is history.

When you are half asleep you function on instinct. You dont think, you just act. Add your military training to the mix, and boom. Stuff happens. Not to sound harsh, but she just needs to understand the potential consequences to panicking and overreacting. You can teach yourself to be calm in a situation, and keep your head about you. If she could learn to do that, things for both of you would likely go smoother. Plus, a calm mom and dad will help not freak the kids out so much. =)

[Foskey]

Sounds like mainly you were reacting to her, and the fear you sensed in her. If you would have woken up on your own from the noise, and she had calmly immediately said "just fireworks babe, go back to bed" you possibly would have been fine. Sure, that instant jolt of adrenaline, but very likely not the follow through reactions. But the panic you picked up on from her, and then the explosion rightly kicked you into high gear, and the rest is history.

When you are half asleep you function on instinct. You dont think, you just act. Add your military training to the mix, and boom. Stuff happens. Not to sound harsh, but she just needs to understand the potential consequences to panicking and overreacting. You can teach yourself to be calm in a situation, and keep your head about you. If she could learn to do that, things for both of you would likely go smoother. Plus, a calm mom and dad will help not freak the kids out so much. =)

I totally agree with this post.

[OneLiveRound]

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