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Reply With Quotetraining always kicks in, it's been programmed into you for a reason.
what is the real question here?
I feel like ******bag of the year
I have serious problems sleeping and my kid and my ol lady woke me up in a panic yelling they didn't know what was going on. Now I've been shot at before in a combat zone and I know what Gunshots sound like so I can only allude to that's the reason I didn't awaken my self. I take lunesta and I've had lightning wake me up as well as the house settling wake me up prior to this. Basically I fell asleep on the couch (which is a rarity for me but I sleep when I can get it) and I guess I was asleep for about 45 minutes and I was in that weird space when you're in REM but not that deep , and they frigging come in and yell at me to wake up. Simultaneously as I awaken I hear an explosion , so my half sleep ass yell at them to "Get the **** Down!!!" and I Hustle them into the "Safe Room" I Charge the AK "and mutter something I don't remember to her and hand it to her" and grab the Mossberg and start clearing the house. I get to the second room and I awaken to reality and see the colors of Fireworks out side the window. Now I feel like the biggest ******bag in the world. I need help in trying to figure out why I reacted the way I did.
#1 When my Eyes opened I see a panicked wife grabbing me and shaking me (since she knows better plus an explosion outside my bay window that looks like willy pete totally took me out of my normal frame of mind)
#2 It's strange to me how I reacted because I don't remember assessing the situation , It's like I was on some weird autopilot that I couldn't control.
#3 It bothers me that I started clearing the house without all of my wits about me. ( I've trained around my house before but The part that bothers me is like I've said before It's almost like I was on some sort of loop.) I went through the fatal funnel and pied the corner around my kids room and Honestly I don't remember doing any of it.
Any info would be good.
Any feedback from you guys would be well appreciated.
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1) TREAT EVERY WEAPON AS IF IT WERE LOADED
2) IF YOU AIM AT IT ASSUME YOU JUST KILLED IT
3&4) FINGER STRAIGHT & OFF THE TRIGGER & WEAPON ON SAFE UNTIL YOU INTEND TO FIRE.
"I'm up They see me I'm Down"
training always kicks in, it's been programmed into you for a reason.
what is the real question here?
So, you took some properly proscribed sleep aids, and then someone outside set off fireworks, which panicked your family, and they woke you up.
You were very disoriented because of the drugs, and your first actions were to secure your family, then your house, then find out what else was going on.
Do I have that correct?
I've posted this on other forums so I'll send it here too...I guess so but the lack of control bothered me , we all talk about what we'll do if this and that situation happens. But how I reacted from a dead sleep kinda bothered me because in all honesty I don't feel like I had control over the situation. God forbid there was some sort of forced entry , yes It's great to know that I guess you'll react the way you train. But the fact that I don't remember doing or saying anything still bothers me. I'm a control freak I suppose, I've trained in the Marine Corps and later in my LE job but In my heart of hearts I frigging KNOW I did what I was supposed to do but I think It was my SO's reaction that threw me off. She looked @ me like I was Crazy.
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pretty much 100%Originally Posted by Narshalla
"I'm up They see me I'm Down"
sounds like you did everything right and in the right order. so what's the problem?
1st for your sleep Try melatonin it's natural and note required every night it take it ever third night. look it up on google are wiki. oh and it dirt cheap. allows me to snap out of sleep faster than other drugs.
Have you talked with your wife get her take on the situation, do not be defensive are she will clam up.
The importance of training right comes in in this situation when reflex and muscle memory take over you want them to be doing it right.
It's her reaction that threw me off as well because she acted as if she had "everything under control" after wards. I told her that if there wasn't a problem that she needed me that she wouldn't have woken me up. I think @ this point I wish I'd have slept through it.
"I'm up They see me I'm Down"
Well, I can't see that you did anything wrong. In fact, I would say that your were in control -- family first, then house -- then everything else.
If you want advice on what you should do different in the future --
First, make sure you wife knows what you are on, what you have taken, and the side effects of those meds. From everything I know, the fact that you could function at all after taking Lunesta means that your adrenal glands function at a very high level.
Next, why, exactly, was she worried? Did she want you to see the fireworks, or did they scare her? Did she think the house was going to catch on fire, and she wanted you to wake up and leave? What was her purpose in waking you? If it was for you to protect her, then you need to get on her training, and get her up to speed on protecting herself/the child/the house. If it was so that you could see the wonderful fireworks, she needs to get a clue -- you are having trouble sleeping, and there is no reason to wake you up to see the pretty stars.
Then, why you seem to be upset that the first thing you do is make sure you family is safe. Not sure why that bothers you. All of us, here, are, to one extent or another, preparing for the worst. You are, too -- and so when you were confronted by a situation, you first got your family safe. This might not seem "in control" to you, and I guess you didn't think that was controlled, even though it seems that way to me. I guess a person had to have been there, or inside your head, even -- I wasn't, so I guess I don't understand.
exactly. anyone in your house would've been shot dead. what's the problem? i've woken up from slumber and grabbed a weapon and light and moved to secure premises. we all do what we've been programmed to do. my little world will stay a safe happy place as long as i have the bullets and the gall to stand and be judged by 12.
If she had everything under control, can she tell you why she woke you up? In the same situation, my dh would be upset with me if I'd woken him up unnecessarily -- and he is a lot nicer than I am, to say the least!
My advice is, start training her -- not as you would a pet or a child, but as you would a person you think would make a great teammate.
Start with the most common scenarios, get her used to what to do, when, and why. Also, I recommend that you keep in mind that she may be very upset with herself that she panicked, and like the rest of the world, she might have a problem admitting it. If it looks like that's the source of the "you must be crazy" look, just drop it. Later (like months from now) she might be able to admit that's what happened. Right now, if you press her, you will start a fight, and you will not win. You will not wind because she is your wife -- she will win.
If you can, go back to sleep. I recommend that you do not talk about it tonight, and when the subject comes up, keep asking her,
- What did you think was happening?
- What did you want me to do?
- Why?
Concentrate on getting her to think her actions through. your actions were well-planned, and covered just about all bases. Hers -- not so much.
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